Maybe we don't need the bigger life

Maybe some of us - most of us; all of us? - need a smaller life. Less. Less pressure, less debt, less expectation. Also: notes on friendship, ghosting and why I don't chase friends.

When I was leaving London for Somerset, I wrote an Instagram post about how although everyone thought we were leaving London to move to a big countryside pad with loads of land - actually, we were moving to a smaller house.

I said that we wanted to aim for less rather than more. Less debt, less belongings, less space to clean. I found this assumption - that we would be looking for more - intriguing. It was as if you would only leave London if it meant bigger.

A friend came to stay, in Somerset, and the first thing she said was: